thanks warlock12118, you made me think there. i was assuming the issue was the TCU but you were quite right it was in fact the APIM. i flashed the original asbuilt from the doner APIM and i received the message to authorise.
not sure why though, as the bit is the same. i never had the two way data symbol before in the top right of the screen but i do now.
Fordpass now says something isnt right says unable to locate and the odometer, oil life and tyre pressure are all blank.
but getting better!
Update, all working!! i think it was 7D0-02-03 xx that activated TCU in the APIM